GB and I have not stopped laughing about this for about four days now.
It’s funny because you know it’s true.
In other, more content-y news, I’m doing better than I was. You all rock so damn much; I am overwhelmed by the amount of support and goodwill coming my way from comments, emails, and general good vibes.
I also spent some more time with this workbook, which was actually much more helpful than I thought it would be. One of the most useful suggestions in there, for me, was one of the simplest: to spend a day acting as though you already looked exactly like you wish you did. Why stop at a day, though, I say? I’m a longtime fan of the advice to “fake it ’til you make it.” And I know that one of the biggest problems I’ve had with this whole Stupid Fucking Issue is the number of ways that I’ve changed my behavior because of it–the number of things I think I can’t do, or shouldn’t do, because I’m worried about what other people will think. So my new strategy for dealing with the beliefs about my body that make me want to change my behavior is this:
Fuck that.
Whaddaya think? I like it. I loved Shrinky‘s suggestion, “Fuck it. This is what I look like,” but it’s hard for me to remember sometimes. So I’m thinking that just shortening it, and then acting like I really am (still) as hot as I want to be, might do the trick. At least a little.
And if this doesn’t work, I am *all* about Weezy’s idea for an online happy hour.
August 20, 2006 at 7:44 pm
Oh, I’m glad you’re feeling happier! (I’m sorry I didn’t comment earlier, but I was sending good thoughts your way, honest.) I think “fuck that” is a wonderful mantra.
August 20, 2006 at 7:47 pm
On the trip, I seemed to have an easier time accepting how I now look (probably because there weren’t many mirrors). But then I saw the photos, and realized that I didn’t look like hell, most of the time.
I wonder how much of that was me *not* worrying so much?
Should we rid ourselves of mirrors?
I’m going to try the day of acting, tomorrow.
Taz
P.S. I think you’re damn cute. 🙂
August 20, 2006 at 9:07 pm
Fuck that! Indeed! I love it. I should say that more often.
I cannot stop laughing about the kitten.
Please, pretty please, can we have an online happy hour? Seriously.
August 20, 2006 at 9:36 pm
Ooooh, online happy hour!
Actually, that advice works WONDERS for me (when I remember to do it). It’s amazing how –this sounds trite, but– *we control* so much of how people see us, react to us, etc. I may do a post on this, because I feel so strongly about it…
August 20, 2006 at 10:03 pm
OK–when should we do an online happy hour? My schedule is sketchy, because we’re off to California this week, for 12 days…but maybe in a couple weeks?
August 20, 2006 at 11:00 pm
I’m up for it whenever– and Dr. Hussy– do make sure to invite Publius, he’s feeling unpopular enough….LOL
August 21, 2006 at 12:03 am
I totally want you to make it your own!
the post is here:
http://shrinkydinkkitten.blogspot.com/2006/07/you-body-is-donald-trumps-hair.html
I hid my archives in a fit of anxiety – but maybe I’ll make them visible again.
August 21, 2006 at 1:47 pm
I think we should have our online happy hour on a weeknight – because of course that’s when we need it most. I can’t do Tuesdays, but any other day at say, 7:00 Eastern time would be fabulous for me.
August 21, 2006 at 2:10 pm
glad you’re feeling better! Love the kitten pic! ANd happy hour – do it, and do it earlier on so I can play!
August 21, 2006 at 6:42 pm
how does online happy hour work? and can i please come? I have happiness and liquor to bring! Im glad you are feeling better because although i cant get to the workbook link i can tell you that knowing how hot you are in reality, this is totally inner work stuff. Your insides just need to relearn how hot your outsides are….
August 21, 2006 at 8:20 pm
Our kitten is the same kitten as that kitten, only orange.
August 22, 2006 at 11:28 pm
Just a wave to say hi and hoping all is well in your little world!!!!
August 25, 2006 at 12:40 pm
i think crse may have said it best… “your insides just need to relearn hot hot your outsides are” crse you rock. as do you lb. (sorry we didn’t make it to see you in time… got near your area as you departed…next time?)
love!