Even though I say it to myself, and to the cats, and to GB, all the time. Even though it pisses me off to no end and I cannot stop bitching about it. I just want to say,ย once, in a semi-public forum:
“Girl” and “boy” are not colors.
I offer you this example (one of far too many): this pack of baby onesies comes in two choices of color: “girl set” and “boy set.”
(“Girl set” is, of course, the one I added to the registry. I mean, come on. Look at those cute little pink and purple bodysuits! And it says “Little Cupcake”! The boy set, on the other hand, says “Little Engineer.” While that makes more financial sense–I would prefer, I guess, that my son pursue a career as an engineer than as a cupcake (though “cupcake” is a fine hobby)–I have to admit I think of my (imaginary, projected, six-months-in-the-future) newborn as much more of a cupcake than an engineer.)
(And to everyone who has responded to news of the baby’s sex with something like “Oh, now we can start buying him pink things!,” I thank you. Sincerely. My older sister just said that to me, and I swear it made me like her even more than I already did. Though, of course, this is the same sister who is making an awesome embroidered quilt for the baby that will be primarily pink and green. My big sister rocks. And so do all of you wonderful people who are vowing to help me dress my boy in socially gender-inappropriate clothing.)
Yeah, I know I’m lying. This is not the last time I’ll bitch about this.
January 3, 2008 at 4:47 pm
you have both my husband and I cracking up over here at the thought of cupcake as career or hobby. he’s an engineer. and you know, cupcake might be more fun.
meanwhile, gah. this kind of thing annoys the living crap out of me. and somehow, pink is my daughter’s favorite color. MEH.
January 3, 2008 at 5:08 pm
I tend to call people cupcake all the time. I also like sunshine and pumpkin. He may as well get used to it if I have my way and get people to regularly use pumpkin, sunshine, or cupcake in reference to others. ๐
January 3, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Anastasia, I might try out the cupcake career path if this academia thing doesn’t work out.
Abbey, I call the cats “pumpkin” all the time. And my dear friend CRSE calls me “Sunshine”, which I love. I can totally see using both of those on the baby a lot. I’ll have to start using cupcake…it reminds me of the episode of “Angel” where Angel tells Lorne, “Stop calling me pastries!” Hee. ๐
January 3, 2008 at 7:34 pm
My baby gift is black. I’m starting to think this won’t be appropriate for either sex.
Also I wanted to know if your Paypal thing got fixed. I thought mine was being hijacked once but it was just a fake alert to get me to log into the fake site.
January 3, 2008 at 7:36 pm
Gretty, black is ALWAYS appropriate. ๐
The Paypal thing did get fixed. It was weird–it involved someone depositing $700+ into my account, then making multiple $200+ dollar withdrawals. So I didn’t actually lose any money, but it was weird. And I got creepy emails from the person who deposited the money. And I’m pretty sure they hacked my gmail, too. Overall, not pleasant. But fixed.
January 4, 2008 at 5:35 am
Color shmolor.
Don’t you live in a sunny seaside town?
Why put your kid in clothes at all?
Isn’t that just the beginning of body image issues?
Check in with GB on this, but I’m pretty sure you can find a nice naked community, and that could solve more than a few problems.
January 4, 2008 at 9:44 am
i just spent a week with my sisters-in-law and their 6 month baby girl and even though i knew that the baby industry is hopelessly dedicated to gender indoctrination…i was still shocked. the story that really got me was that the nurses glued (yes, GLUED) a ribbon onto their baby’s head while she was in the hospital nursery. as if the pink blanket wasn’t enough…
keep up the good fight, LB!
January 4, 2008 at 10:41 am
Skycat–I actually said something like that to my mom…that we didn’t really have to worry about clothes, since he’ll be born in SoCal in the summer….and all we’ll really need are diapers. She did NOT take this well. Apparently, being born naked does not mean (in my mom’s world) that you get to remain naked. So we’ll see how that goes when she gets out here…but she’s already started buying 0 – 3 month clothes. ๐
January 5, 2008 at 5:43 pm
Clear sign I need another vacation (already!): when I read “The boy set, on the other hand, says โLittle Engineer.โ” my first thought was “not ANOTHER example of gender discrimination in the sciences!” Sheesh. ๐
January 7, 2008 at 7:03 am
i call my art boy pumpkin head a lot. don’t know why.
when sassy girl was a wee think, i dress her in overalls and everything “boy” and then one day she absolutely refused to wear anything but dresses. this lasted for like three years. now she wears only jeans but is the girliest girl i know.
you kind of give up and work on the things that matter more, like their emotional development, sense of ethics, and intellectual growth. or at least, that is what i have done.
perhaps i’m the enemy though: she wanted her first make-up for xmas and i bought her some clinique stuff.
January 7, 2008 at 7:04 am
i’m not sure why i don’t re-read my posts for wierd typos–sorry!
January 8, 2008 at 9:47 am
Sweets, I’d give anything to take a walk with you right now.
The kiddo and I miss you like crazy. Talk very soon.